Love, Believe, Trust: An Insider’s Guide to Deep Meaning

A heartfelt Valentine’s Day letter to my children about self-love, belief, trust, and navigating life with deeper meaning in a changing world.

This letter was originally written to my children for Valentine’s Day—an offering of lived wisdom, hard-earned lessons, and guiding principles I wish I’d been given earlier in life.

I’m sharing a slightly edited version here to extend these lessons to everyone.

My loves,

I have been pulled to provide you with some core “rules of the road” for life which I have learned the hard way, the long way, and ultimately—the truth way. 

I love you more than you could ever comprehend and I want the absolute best for you.

So, I thought Valentine's Day was appropriate timing, as the idea of writing this letter to you hit me like a freight train a couple weeks ago and would not go away….so here it is. 

After all that has transpired for you in the past years I want to fully acknowledge that your challenges have been significant, and want to support you in any way I can to help steer the heartbreak, the suffering, and the loneliness you may feel at times so you can feel more confident, stable and trusting in life itself. 

For some, life is so hard and challenging for long periods of time—and we feel like we are going to have to live that way our entire lives.  Like that is our “lot in life”. 

THIS IS NOT THE CASE. 

Connecting with bigger concepts and understandings about your heart, mind and spirit will put you on a completely different pathway and help you move through the toughness more readily. 

I am here to hold space for you while you heal from the past, grow forward, and love the journey.

This letter won’t take long to read, however it may take a while to digest…hang on to it and come back to it every once and while is my suggestion.

 

Your Insider’s Guide to Deep Meaning

I wrote the notes below to share my learnings with you to create an “insiders-guide” or “road map” to help you Fast Forward in your ability to navigate life, have courage to think big and pursue your dreams—to feel happiness more readily, to appreciate the importance of staying grounded in your body, to love yourself more, to feel less scared, and to hold greater personal power and presence as you surf the waves of life as they curl and unfurl. 

My intention is to give you these insights because I sure do wish I had them when I was younger—not that I would really know how to apply them then—but at least it would have been nice to have someone explain this stuff to me so when I saw it, I knew how to respond. 

Most likely, knowing some of what I share with you here could have helped me steer off from a crap ton of pain and difficulty.  Many times, I never felt like I ever had anyone in my corner to tell me how to hold my power and trust my instincts.  Especially to explain that loving myself was crucial to success. 

Please let me know if I can ever help you in any way.  I will always do my best. I am in your corner. That will never change.

The Bigger View — 30 Years Out

This world is undergoing a “fast change” sequence—we are moving into a disassembling of the old societal structures and the building of something completely new which is going to occur in your lifetime. 

There is no real known model for life on earth will look like in 30 years—all I have gathered in all my learnings is that it will be much different technologically, societally, and energetically.   Organizational concepts based upon comparative power and verticality (they are better than me, this is the way it has always been, etc.) are coming apart and going lateral. 

This is not meant to alarm you; it is meant to inform you.  Take advantage of it!!  You guys are going to have so much opportunity for new things—it is going to be amazing.

Going Inward to Go Upward

Looking outward to have someone or something tell you who you are or what to do is ending due to a growing group consciousness that is ‘waking up” to a deeper understanding that we are much more powerful and connected that previously “told” in the last 2000 years. 

More and more people are asking deep questions about relationships, the meaning of life, why we are here, and seeking life guidance than ever before.  This is a great sign—and you are part of this era because you are already leading life with a big heart and following your inner guidance.   I can see it.

So, moving forward into 2030, the stronger you are inward, and have a good solid compass with an understanding of key tools for your soul, which is what I discuss below, the happier, more successful, and creative you will be.  All of which will help you to accelerate upward. 

In the bumpy times of the next 10 years, I want to also reinforce that you should not ever accept what you consider unacceptable—to the best of your ability at the time.  Lots of people doing and saying crazy stuff to control your actions and beliefs while everything gets put to the test during a reforming of how we live on this planet.

Always—walk away until you are certain.  “Let me think about it” is a great strategy.

Please remember when you say NO to others, you are saying YES to yourself.  9/10 times this is the right answer.

Your Emotions Live in a Sea of Energy

We live in a sea of energy.

Your generation will come to understand a lot about frequency, quantum physics and things like “free energy” for power sources in the next 10-20 years. 

You will realize that your emotions emit signals into this sea of energy which are "frequencies” or “vibrations” however you want to call it—and managing YOUR emotional energies and frequencies is a cornerstone to success. 

That does not mean controlling or suppressing your emotions at ALL—quite the opposite—they are your internal guidance system.  And they are energy in motion—let them move through you. 

And when we are challenged emotionally or stressed—the lower frequencies in us can use a boost by finding help from an outside source (fresh air, sunshine, a happy person, etc.).

A Special Place for Love, Believe & Trust

The tray I had made for you says Love, Believe & Trust.

Those are not so much generalized groovy statements as they are huge power words which carry endless meanings—and there is a way I want to remind you of those words as governing concepts as relates to YOU and YOUR LIFE.

I want you to remember them every day.

LOVE

Love yourself.  Love yourself ALWAYS in as many dimensions as you are consciously aware of—and then beyond.

Have compassion for yourself. Have compassion for your journey and remember that you cannot give what you don't have for yourself and who you are.

Love is a state of being, it is a state of expression, it is expansion, it is the highest frequency that a human can physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and energetically articulate.

When you feel love, your energetic field pulses at its biggest—8 feet outside of your body and beyond. It impacts everyone and everything around you.

Love is the great connector—it is part of the invisible fabric that is the experience of ALL things, not just humans.   Animals, Mother Nature, even mother earth. Anytime you are feeling down or upset think of something that you love—be it either even a young animal that you think is cute and watch how fast your energy changes.

Living and loving in your heart center is your greatest point of personal power and keeps you in the present moment where everything happens—no matter what you think, pun intended. 

When you love yourself, you are open to your mistakes and have greater acceptance of your imperfections.  And things that don't work out and relationships that fall apart—allow us to better understand our relationship with OURSELVES. 

When you love who you are, you take great care of your body as a priority.  Crowding your time with mentally draining people and events will take its toll…trust me on this.

I guarantee you the best investment you will ever make is in building a great relationship with yourself. 

Reach out to friends, get help from coaches and counselors, heal your body, be curious, live alone for a while, wander, travel, ask hard questions about life, cry hard, and most importantly LET GO.

When we LET GO of the past, we are making room for the future, and the body needs to know and feel that intention to let go—and forgive—if necessary, to feel free.

Remember ALWAYS that forgiveness is for YOU and your freedom.  Not anyone else’s. Everyone is on a journey, and being faulty is who we are, and our lessons keep coming no matter what.

We are constantly learning—and when you are in pain, something so hard you would never wish it to happen to anyone else—the burn at the stake pain—love yourself as you move through it and love yourself MORE for having moved through it. 

Know that emotional pain can equal deep soul growth, self-reckoning with your soul and a heart which is changing shape. You are not meant to be the same, ever.  The biggest changes and transformations of who you are in life are often the MOST PAINFUL. 

Otherwise, we wouldn’t confront that level of soul growth, expansion or soul “work.” 

Breaking your heart—and breaking it open—is part of life.

NO ONE is perfect—perfectionists are the most unhappy people on the planet as there is no finish line. 

No one is better than you either—we are all born naked, born lovable, born worthy, and born enough.  We leave this lifetime that way too. 

We are always growing and learning.  We're not supposed to have all the answers—it's why we're here—earth is a school.

A tough one.    

When you love yourself, you are comfortable with being vulnerable with others—and that gives people a sense of safety in their own vulnerability.  This is a great and scary thing to do and the rewards of intensely deep connections which result from vulnerable conversations will always be worth it.

When you love yourself, you are willing to try even harder to realize your dreams….why? because you KNOW:

1) you are worthy; 2) you are enough; and 3) you are lovable.   

I know it’s hard to believe and/or remember those 3 things sometimes.

When we are born onto this planet all sorts of crap starts to happen to convince us otherwise—and we will go around convinced that we might not be lovable. Or that we're not as good as someone else. Or that what we dream about will never come to pass in the way that we feel it should.

Again, that is all just “programming” of mental thinking which creates our felt fears and psychological limitations, and they burrow into the subconscious mind most often between the ages of 0-7 years—AND THESE BELIEFS ARE NOT TRUE.   

Every parent will tell you they've screwed up left, right and center—and it just is one of these things that's part of the human journey.

Don’t feel good enough? 

Guaranteed you experienced something when you were younger—most likely with me or your dad—which convinced you of that then—I am so sorry...I was blind and asleep...but question those feelings. 

They are falsehoods, so dump them. Not true, never was.

Once you realize that this is the way the ancient human brain works you can turn around quickly and say, “No! No! I am not going to believe that!”

Like a kaleidoscope, we are all full of false belief filters which color our reality, lessen our sense of self-empowerment, and we can release them.   

Question any fear you have—it could belong to a 7-year-old version of yourself.  Help that version of you get what it needs—just like you are lovingly helping a child find a lost toy…be compassionate with yourself—because a version of you needs something to feel safe and let it go.

Be real about loving yourself in all dimensions and watch the universe and the world around you respond positively—your life will expand with people and experiences which begin to reflect that back to you as like energy attracts like energy—the same energetic frequencies find each other—always.

BELIEVE

This means believe in yourself. Believe in yourself first, and always. 

The power and certainty of belief run our mental game like the quarterback on the field.

The power of self-belief has built cities, it has saved lives, it has changed the course of history because one person believed the impossible—it can change your life on the turn of a dime when you believe in yourself. 

And when you believe in yourself, others do too.

And if you don’t believe in yourself sometimes?  Guarantee you there is a younger version of you in the subconscious who has their hand on the wheel of your mental focus.  Know that they are acting out of self-protection or are carrying an old fear.  Love that version of you—feel into it and ask yourself…”what do you need right now”? and you will get an answer. 

When I work with people who are finding out what the childhood part holding the limiting belief needs, I most often hear 2 responses:  1) I need to know I am safe/going to be ok; 2) I need to know I am loved. 

Please remember to check in within if you feel you are questioning your self-belief.  

Most importantly—be very careful about what you believe and who you believe.  As belief is an equal opportunity engine, our mind and body is strapped onto it whether we are aware of it or not, and what you believe will drive your life's outcomes—both good and bad. 

Why? Because not all beliefs are TRUE. 

I believed all sorts of crap my siblings told me when I was younger and it made me feel terrible about myself.  Or consider the placebo effect where people can be given a sugar pill and heal themselves from major diseases.  

Simple attitudes are also very potent. People who believe they are healthy are healthy.

People who believe they are sick are sick.   We can also inherit behaviors and belief systems in our DNA! Your body is always listening to past programming hardwired in your brain from family, your early years, and the environment in which you live. 

Learning to control and redirect your brain’s tendency for automatic past-based thinking can be like riding a bucking bronco sometimes.  This is critical to understand!

So, what is it that you believe about yourself? Where are you putting the authority of your belief? That is the most important thing.  Where and to whom are you giving your authority to?  Why?

THE UNWANTED BELIEF ANCHORS HOLDING US BACK

We grow up in very vulnerable semi-hypnotic states when we're trying to learn so much on the planet as our brain is developing during the ages 0-7 years. We form what are called “limiting beliefs” that live in our subconscious mind and will influence our lives in secret and underhanded ways as adults.

Because of the physiology of the nervous system, these limiting, fear-based beliefs will drive what we look at, what we see, how we automatically respond to people and events, and most importantly, how we think about ourselves.

It's really frustrating in my line of work when a client realizes that they've had a limiting belief since they were four years old that is running their life as an adult. I tell them this is a 2,000,000-year-old brain we're using right now. It's pretty smart general terms, but you need to watch out for hidden limiting beliefs from childhood that are making you feel bad about yourself and the world.

If you also have a subconscious belief “I'm not good enough” or “what I work on never comes to pass” or “I'll never get what I want”—all of that stuff—whether true or false is simply mental programming and commands for your brain.

Always believe in yourself, but beware of what you believe, and why—such that you are not hurting yourself.

TRUST

When it comes to the word TRUST I want you to first of all trust yourself.

No one person will ever interpret the world and the life around you the way that you do.

You come to develop trust through trial and error, yes, but also by hearing an “inner voice”—also known as instinct.  Your instincts are some the most important things you can pay attention to because there are ways that your body is bringing in real and important information that your brain isn't consciously aware of.

You actually have 3 brains in your body: one in-between your ears, the one in your heart where you have 40,000 white brain cells, and you have a massive nervous system built into your guts called the enteric nervous system, or the “second brain”. 

The gut’s nervous system is massive and is sending information to your brain at 267 Miles Per Hour every second—and 80 percent of the body’s information goes to the brain—not the other way around.

This is why it's always told to you “trust your gut instinct” or “what do your instincts say?”

Also keep in mind that your body will always know life-related answers first—your nervous system and organs are continually reading the energy field around you. Scientists have proven that the heart receives information and knows something is about to happen 1.5 seconds before the brain.

When we are working our way through the world your gut’s nervous system is giving you information, your heart is giving you feelings (and is tied to the quantum energetic field around you), and your brain is computing what is best for you based on the current info it is receiving filtered through the lenses of your past experiences. 

These 3 brains are the triad of intelligences you are leveraging to maximize the power you hold within.

Utilize it always. You may get directional information that seems very random—you know like “fly to San Diego for the weekend”, or “don't go out with your friends tonight”, or “call that person you've been delaying” because you think it's going to be a really hard conversation (but it turns out great), or “reach out for that job that you're interested in”… everything that you are directed toward in life is being given to you for a reason.

It's a higher “awareness” you can employ to make decisions, choices, to trust when you are not doing something that everyone around you is telling you to do.

However NOT trusting yourself when you know something needs to happen and not acting on something you know needs to occur can devolve into a hell. When we don't listen to our instincts things that aren't going well will just continue to get worse until we do.  

I don't want that for you ever, but our brains our built for safety, and to maximize the efficiency of habits—so most often we take longer to make a call than necessary.  And sometimes making hard decisions without feeling safe on the other side will be one of the hardest things you have to do. 

You will be tested to trust in biggest trust there is—trusting the universe!! And there will be times where moves cannot be made, no matter what.  And that is ok too.

You have amazing instincts. You are deeply aware.  Use them to guide yourself as you move forward. The more you use them the stronger they get. They are also guiding you to an expression of who you really are—putting you in places and spaces where you get to be in your real light.

Love. Believe. Trust. You.

So that's about it, for now….

There's always so much more to share…but I want you to love yourself, believe in yourself, and trust yourself.

 Knowing that we get hamstrung by false beliefs that live in our subconscious is very important for you to know and understand to experience your full potential—which is limitless.

Even though we are here on this planet doing our best in our relative circles to just manage on a day-to-day basis, there is so much exciting stuff coming for you in this lifetime!!

I am so excited for all of us!!

We all will be living on a completely different earth in 30 years—I believe this to be a fact.

Be creative, create small communities, follow your inner compass, be bold, take action, be open to mistakes, forgive others when they make theirs, expand as much as you can.

I love you more than you will ever know.

Thank you for choosing me to be your mom.

I will be here for you always no matter what.

Love,

Mom

2/14/26